Why You’re Afraid Of Success & How To Get Over It So That You Finally Become Who You’ve Always Thought You Could Be

You’re not good enough. Bullshit.

You don’t know enough. Excuse.

You’re nothing special. You’re wrong.

You’re scared of failing. It’s part of success.

You’re not confident. So you think.

No one believes in you.

And they won’t, until you believe in yourself.


What We Think, We Become

Thoughts are powerful.

It’s your thoughts that shape your actions, and your actions that shape your results.

Question – How and when did you first develop your thoughts about yourself, what you’re good at, and capable of accomplishing, otherwise known as your beliefs?

How were your beliefs developed? How did they come to be?

People, events, and experiences all shape your beliefs. Good or bad, these beliefs become your guiding light to everything it is you do or don’t do.


Success Worthy

We’re all worthy of success.

It’s available to anyone who pursues it, regardless of what you may have been told.

Early off in my childhood, I was told I wasn’t good or smart enough, that I was a punk, a loser, and a trouble maker.

These words and experiences shaped my thoughts and my beliefs for years.

I wanted to be successful, but was told I was a punk.

I wanted to be a leader, but was told I was a loser.

I wanted to make a difference, but was told I was a trouble maker.

I wasn’t success worthy, so I was told.



It’s What You Think & Believe That Matters

It took me years to get past all the limiting beliefs I had of myself. I no longer believe I’m a punk, loser, or trouble maker who’s not worthy of success, of being a leader, or making a difference.

I can succeed.

I can be a leader.

I can make a difference in the world.


You’ve probably been told, at one point or another, that you couldn’t do it, weren’t good enough or smart enough. Maybe you were told you weren’t fast enough, pretty enough, qualified enough, or just lacked what was necessary to be successful.

Here’s a few examples of such stories:

Walt Disney was fired from a newspaper job he had for “lacking imagination” and “having no original ideas“.

Oprah Winfrey was demoted from her job as a news anchor because “she wasn’t fit for television”.

Albert Einstein wasn’t able to speak until he was almost 4 years old and his teachers said he would “never amount to much”.

The Beetles were rejected by a record label and told, “you have no future in show business”.


It’s not what they were told or what others believed that mattered, it’s what they chose to believe about themselves and the actions they took regardless of what they were told.


Become Who You’ve Always Thought You Could Be

In the words of George Eliot, “it’s never to late to be who you might have been.”

What is it you’ve always wanted to do, see, create, or become?

Forget yesterday, it’s gone. Shift your focus to who you will become, all you will do, and create – now.

Take all of your limiting beliefs that have held you back and stopped you from becoming who you’ve always believed you could be, and squash them. Get rid of them. They no longer serve you, they never have.


If you’ve always wanted to lose weight, to be comfortable and confident in your own skin, your time is now.


If you’ve always dreamt of starting your own business but thought you weren’t smart enough, that belief is bullshit, get rid of it.


If you’ve always wanted to find someone to share your life with and be loved, but have always thought you weren’t good enough or pretty enough – stop. No more. You are more than good enough and worthy of love.


If you’ve always wanted to start a new career, but were afraid of failing or what others may think or say of your career move, fear will no longer hold you back.


Your time is now, and here’s exactly how you’re going to do it.


1. Identify

Do your best to think back to when you may have created the limiting beliefs about yourself. Identify it and isolate it to a moment, a period of time, an experience, or an event.


2. Eliminate

It’s done, over with, gone for good. Your limiting beliefs will no longer guide you or serve you. You will not be defined by these beliefs any longer. Identify who it is you want to become, what you want to do, or create. The only person who can hold you back is you. These limiting thoughts are untrue and they will no longer hold you back. 


3. Replace

Believe in yourself and in all that you will become. Catch yourself when you begin to think of all the reasons why you can’ t, or you won’t, or you shouldn’t. Catch yourself in the moment and stop these thoughts immediately and replace them with all the reasons why you can and you will. Visualize yourself succeeding and become the person you’ve always thought you could be.


4. Action

Take small steps immediately. Whether you’re looking to lose weight, decrease debt, find a new career, find love, travel, write a book, have a better relationship with your family or friends. Begin taking small steps that moves you in the direction of what it is you want. Taking action, as small as the action may be, will begin to give you the confidence to do more and take more action.


5. Evaluate

Take a good honest look around you. Identify those who support you and those who do not. Spend less time with those who feed your past limiting beliefs and instead, surround yourself with family, friends, groups, and communities that support who you’re out to become, or do, or create. Don’t waste another second of your day listening to limiting beliefs about yourself and what’s possible.


6. Accept

No one wants to fail. We all want to succeed, and you will. In time, you will. The road to success is paved with failure, and that’s perfectly fine. Understand that failure is part of the process. It isn’t about being perfect and never failing. It’s about making progress and moving forward. The thought that failure is a bad thing is a limiting belief that will no longer serve you.


You have the right to be happy.

You have the right to pursue all it is you want.

You have the right to believe whatever you chose.

You have a choice.

A choice to either let your limiting beliefs of the past continue to rule your world, stopping you from becoming who it is you’ve always thought you could be, or begin believing in yourself, in new beliefs, beliefs that you can and you will, that you are good enough and smart enough.


Make Your Move

Make a commitment to yourself right now that you will no longer let limiting beliefs from the past dictate your thoughts, actions, results, and ultimately, your happiness.


Start Here

#1 Pick one limiting belief you have right now to begin working on immediately. Whether it’s that you can’t lose weight, aren’t smart enough to start your own business or a new career, good enough for a relationship and being loved. Identify a limiting belief you have right now and write it down.


#2 Why do you feel this way? Why do you believe you can’t lose weight or are not smart enough or good enough? Why do you believe this and where did it come from? Write it down. If you need a few days to give this one more thought, that’s fine. Just be sure to come back and write down your answer once you have it.


#3 Whatever limiting belief you have, write down the complete opposite such as, I can lose weight, I am smart enough, I am good enough, I am worthy of love and of happiness. Begin telling yourself this every single day. Remember, it’s our thoughts that shape our actions and our actions that shape our results.


#4 Identify one small step you can begin taking action on immediately to support your new beliefs. Write it down. Commit to this one small step and do it daily for the next 7 days. Begin building momentum in the direction in which you want to go.


#5 Evaluate your surroundings. Who will encourage and support you and your new beliefs? Who are those that won’t? Write both of these down and begin spending more time with those who support you, and less time with those who do not. Begin developing your own support system.


#6 Write down what you fear the most that could happen. Failure, rejection, being laughed at or going bankrupt. Write it down. As you begin to change your thoughts, take action, and change the environment around you, you’ll notice that what was once your greatest fear isn’t that scary after all.


Don’t wait until next week, next month, or the new year to begin this assignment, do it right now.

The longer you wait, the longer you’re delaying all it is you want, your happiness, and your success.

Start today, start right now.


In the comments below, please share with me what your number one limited belief is that you will commit to overcoming over the next 7 days.

  • Mike,

    This post is brilliant. It fits perfectly with my Mindset Coaching work. Right now I’ve been posting on my A Wife’s Reflections Blog for Scott Dinsmore’s LYL blogging. At some point I’m migrating my posts to my business blog: http://anewlifeoasis.com/category/blog

    Would you be interested in guest blogging on my blog or having me guest post on your blog? It would be a good way to help each other.

    Thank you!

    • Thanks for your words and for being here Kimberly, you’re awesome! Congrats on the work you are doing as well with your Mindset Coaching business and best of luck as well migrating all your work to your business blog. I look forward to seeing it when it’s up and running. I look forward to connecting with you further as well. Cheers! 🙂

  • Great Article… I feel stuck in my job that I don’t like. My fear or limiting belief is that I won’t be able to support myself and my wife in the lifestyle we are accustomed to if I quit. I don’t think I’d get much support for turning in a secure position for the unknown…. Guess we have to talk about it more so any decision for change is made together..

    • Thanks for your comment and being here, I appreciate it. The feeling of being stuck at a job you don’t like is a feeling I know all too well, unfortunately. If quitting isn’t an immediate option due to financial responsibilities, perhaps you can work “Full-Time” on your “Part-Time” business… the business you love and enjoy doing that you want to be doing full time. By working full-time on your part-time gig, I mean giving it your absolute during the hours per week you dedicate to what it is you are creating and working on that will eventually allow you to quite your current job that you don’t like. No question either that making such a decision together is the only way to go. If you know what you want, go after it, in whatever way possible.

  • Great attitude in this one Mike. #5, thats my trouble!!! Too much time spent around people who do not support a fit lifestyle. Too little time scheduled on the fitness I desire. You inspired me to go to an enlightening conference for personal growth – not just conferences for professional growth. So this week-end I WILL refocus my efforts at the I Can Do It in Pasadena. Thanks for showing all the avenues you try………it shows real motivation for improvement.

    • Thanks for your comments Jen, I appreciate it. The good news is you know where your trouble lies and where to focus your attention on to make the changes necessary to begin taking more care of you, including your health. That’s so great that you will be attending a professional growth conference this weekend…how awesome! Yes you CAN do it and I know you WILL do it. Cheers! 🙂

  • Great Post! I believe everyone could use #3 daily. Whether it be a sticky note to view when you first wake up or if you constantly remind yourself that you are worthy of everything that you want. Thoughts really do change your life!

    • Thanks for your comments Kristen! I too am a fan of having notes around the house that constantly remind you of all that is possible and that I am capable of. It gets me in the right mind set for the day. Thoughts definitely change lives, the right thoughts that is. 🙂

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Contact Us

Give us a call or fill in the form below and we will contact you. We endeavor to answer all inquiries within 24 hours on business days.